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Goliath's Decapitated Head and What it Has To Do With Pornography

Goliath's Decapitated Head and What it Has To Do With Pornography

- - - In the story of David and Goliath in 1 Samuel 17 there are many lessons to be learned about standing up to our giants, about our faith in God, and about how you NEVER defy the Lord of Hosts, the God of the armies of Israel. Now besides being an incredible story with some of the most blood pumping dialogue in all of scripture, there is are some intentional things that David does here that can teach us about how to defeat our enemies, namely pornography addiction. Rememb

Two Lessons We Learned About PORN at the TRU Conference

Two Lessons We Learned About PORN at the TRU Conference

- - - This past weekend Chris and I were privileged to speak at the TRU Conference in Norman, Oklahoma. Our mutual friend invited us to speak on the subject of pornography, its effects, and how we can go about fixing the problem (click here for the audio). A lot of men and women showed up to both sessions and many of them sat down with us to share their own stories and struggles with porn. Through these conversations, Chris and I were able to shift from being the teachers to

3 Bad Habits That Can Kill a Marriage

3 Bad Habits That Can Kill a Marriage

- - - We all have habits, whether its biting your nails, your morning coffee, or doodling on the margins of your notebook. There are things in our lives that have been woven into the fabric of who we are by repetition and time that most of us do these things without even thinking about what we are doing. Some of these things are good and they help us stay on track and work to better ourselves. Others can be rather nasty and tear down rather than build us up. We all have w

4 Reasons to NEVER Talk About Porn in Church

4 Reasons to NEVER Talk About Porn in Church

- - - 1) My church doesn’t look at porn. I mean, I guess you could look at the stats in a negative light. Sure, the numbers say that 64% of Christian men and 15% of Christian women view pornography at least once a month but surely that is not happening in your church. The men and women you worship along side are stronger and more mature than those who struggle with this sin in other churches. In another study, they found that 13.9% of young men never view pornography. I t

How to confess your secret sin

How to confess your secret sin

- - - If you have struggled with porn or keeping any secret from a significant other, you know that telling them or confessing can be one of the scariest things you could ever do in a relationship. Your heart beings to race, you get a lump in your throat, and you might even feel like passing out when the times comes to confess. What makes things worse is knowing how your spouse is going to take the news. Will there be crying? Most likely. Will you have broken the trust h

4 Vital Attitudes To Rebuild Your Marriage

4 Vital Attitudes To Rebuild Your Marriage

- - - After 13 years of marriage I wouldn’t say that I am an expert when it comes to marriage, but I do feel like I know awful lot about the subject. I can say this, not because of my ability to perfectly navigate every circumstance that has come our way but because we (I) have made a lot of mistakes along the way in those 13 years. With all of that set aside, I am confident in saying that trust and respect are the foundation on which a good marriage is built. Trust and re

3 Steps For When You Fall

3 Steps For When You Fall

- - - Over the years and countless group meetings there are two things that are very apparent to me at this point in my journey: 1) There will always be a people needing recovery from porn/sex addiction, and 2) There will always be setbacks as people recover. One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Proverbs 24:16: “for the righteous falls seven times and rises again, but the wicked stumble in times of calamity.” (ESV) This is such a perfect picture of what rec

4 Facts Your Kids Won't Tell You About the Internet

4 Facts Your Kids Won't Tell You About the Internet

- - - The internet is a wondrous invention. With it we now of the opportunity to communicate at an unprecedented level and we have more information at our fingertips than ever before. Without the internet you wouldn’t be reading this article right now and you couldn’t laugh at all the funny videos on YouTube when you should be working. However, as we all know, the internet has a dark side to it and has exposed an entire generation to a new level of temptation. Researchers

The "Sexth Sense"

The "Sexth Sense"

- - - I recently watched “Sixth Sense” after having not seen it in many years. I was struck again by the boy’s torturous struggle. He keeps the secret that he sees dead people (ghosts) because he doesn’t want anyone looking at him like he is a freak. He especially shields his mother from it despite the agony it causes him to fight his struggle alone. He is constantly terrified and isolated. The boy eventually feels compelled to confess the secret to his therapist after a “roc

The Lasting Effects of Pornography

The Lasting Effects of Pornography

Choosing to quit your addiction to pornography can be quite the struggle. Your brain and body will fight against you heavily as you work towards purging your porn watching habits from your life. As a result, it’s not uncommon for people to relapse a few weeks or even days after trying to quit. The changes that pornography and, along with it, masturbation have on your brain isn’t something that clears up over night. Both your body and mind have to go through a transition proce

4 Ways to Develop a Shame-Free Church

4 Ways to Develop a Shame-Free Church

Personal story time: When Alicia and I were newly weds and my porn problem became apparent not only were we trying to figure out this crisis in our lives but we felt very much alone in our struggle. The women that Alicia reached out to for help were not very equipped to help the situation and were almost shaming in a since. We have encountered this quite often in our ministry to help those who were in the same boat as we were; afraid to confess or reach out for help in fear

BASIC: The Cost

Sports Illustrated's Fundamental Hypocrisy

Sports Illustrated's Fundamental Hypocrisy

“Sports Illustrated Takes Stand Against Sexual Harassment by Putting Naked Women on Cover” That was the title of a recent article on the satirical news site, the Babylon Bee. In its typical fashion, the Babylon Bee poked fun at the ridiculous but accurate message the latest Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition is representing. Words like “empowering” and “creative” were used by Swimsuit Edition editor MJ Day in her attempts to promote the obviously wrong and counter producti

BASIC: The Cycle

BASIC: The Cycle

The Cycle of Addiction is so important to understanding how porn addiction works. If you want a good indicator in yourself or your loved ones if they are actually addicted to porn look for these signs. #JackDodgen #ChrisKrotz #overcome #pornaddiction #intimacy #wheniamweak #help #marriage #signs #husband #secret #church #BASIC #addiction #video #brain #cycle #cycleofaddiction #amiaddicted

Five Guaranteed Ways To Rebuild Your Wife's Trust

Five Guaranteed Ways To Rebuild Your Wife's Trust

After helping several men break free from their porn addiction I have witnessed and experienced all that goes into rebuilding a level of trust in a marriage. Many times when a man finally sees that there is a way out of this pit they still have many miles to travel to gain back the trust of their spouse and rightfully so. After all, it was us who betrayed. It was us who broke our vows. It is us who the vast majority of the work falls on in regaining trust. But in this pr

BASIC: The Drugs

BASIC: The Drugs

There are 5 major drugs that are behind porn addiction: Dopamine: Highly addictive Craves novelty Progresses towards the explicit, taboo, and violent Testosterone: Determines your sex drive Released while you watch porn Norepinephrine: Adrenaline Heightened state of awareness Increases memories while under its effects Oxytocin: Cuddle drug The feeling of being in love Can make you feel deep levels of connectedness to porn actors Serotonin: Increases levels of calmness Becomes

Why Married Couples Need to Have More Sex

Why Married Couples Need to Have More Sex

For people who should be having sex more than anyone else, we sure don’t talk about it very often. That isn’t to say that we should be a people who “kiss and tell,” but we should be a people who are known for being celebrants of sex. After all, one of God’s very first commands to His people was “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen. 1:28). This is not the only reason though why married couples need to be having sex more often. God Created Sex For You to Enjoy Some think of sex stri

BASIC: The Reason

BASIC: The Stats

BASIC: The Stats

Porn is a problem. Most of the world agrees with this fact but if you need more proof here are some stats for you: STAT 1: Chiara Sabina, Janis Wolak, and David Findelhor (CyberPsychology and Behavior 11 – 2008) STAT 2: Jamie Le (The Digital Divide - 2012) STAT 3: 2014 Pornography Survey and Statistics (Proven Men Ministries) STAT 4: Maryam Kamvar and Shumeet Baluja (Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems - 2006) STAT 5: 2014 Pornography Survey and Statistics (Prov

BASIC: Introduction

BASIC: Introduction

Whether you have a working knowledge of porn addiction or this is the first article you have ever read, BASIC is for you. In this series we hope to educate people about the dangers and problem of pornography, how addiction works, and how to break free from the addiction. The topics that we will be looking at in this BASIC series are: The Stats Why do we have this problem? Your brain on porn The cycle of addiction How to know if you are addicted Not a victimless crime Porn’s c

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